Swedish press and facebook have been all over the news that Swedish Snowboard team member Kevin Bäckström has gotten kicked off the team for his misogynous posts on women, both on his blog and his instagram and other social networks.
While I believe in warnings, he had recieved several, and is still painting himself up as the victim. “The girls WANT me to post these photos, what am I supposed to do?”
When you’re only twenty, differentiating between right and wrong is not as easy as it may seem. It takes you a bloody good time, past your mid-twenties, to even start picking up all the social signals and the manners in which you can act with good conciense. But fact remains. If your values are healthy, you don’t post these things in the first place, even if the girls sending them to you have unhealthy values. And being told time and time again from your employers: “We won’t stand for this, it’s not right, if you continue, we’re considering letting you go. We can’t have this in our project/workplace/presentation.” SHOULD at least make you think twice. Maybe this is wrong, at least in this medium, and I value my job. And my mama did raise me right. And this is why it may be wrong. Every human, boy or girl, young or old, has the ability to reflect in situations like this. And he wouldn’t, and he still wont.
The point with feminism is, contrary to popular beliefs about manhating, that we are all people. That guys aren’t idiots who think with their dicks and are smart enough to know girls are not objects. That they have the self control not to rape if a girl is wearing a short skirt and that they won’t humiliate her even if she’s “asking for it”. If an idiot steps up, boy or girl, thinking otherwise they need to know it’s not OK.
And honestly? With all the hatred bubbling towards women right now, with all the IM’s, comments and posts that have become socially acceptable, fight fire with fire is probably the way to go as of right now, in the beginning. Because it has gone too far, and only a proper slap in the face will wake the public.
I’ll end this post with a quote I’m using and abusing right now: Feminism is the radical notion that women are people.